How Are Things Feeling?

Do(es) my partner(s):

• Support me and respect my choices?

• Acknowledge and validate my identity or identities?

• Support me spending time with friends or family?

Do I:

• Feel comfortable talking about my feelings, sex, and other important things with my partner(s)?

• Feel like I can make my own decisions about my finances, schedule, friends, and gender expression?

Knowing the Signs of Intimate Partner Violence​

Does your partner…

• Threaten to out you – your gender identity, sexual orientation, HIV status or immigration status to friends, family, or at work?

• Refuse to recognize your name, pronouns, identity, or preferred language?

• Control your access to medicine (hormones, anti-anxiety/depression, PrEP/PEP, ART, substance replacement therapy, birth control)?

• Pressure or force you to do something sexual you don’t want to do? Fetishize or exoticize your identity and/or body without your consent?

Do you share any of these common fears?

• Do you feel like you have nowhere to turn for help and fear hostile responses from family, friends, service providers, therapists, or police because of homophobia and anti-LGBTQ+ bias?

• Are you worried that if you report the violence, you won’t be believed/denied services due to stereotypes about the LGBTQ+ community?

• Are you worried that you won’t be believed if your attacker is not socially seen as a perpetrator?

• Are you afraid of being outed if you tell your family, the courts, or report the violence to the police?

• Do you feel like you would be betraying the LGBTQ+ community by disclosing that you were assaulted by another LGBTQ+ person?

• Are you afraid that you would expose your perpetrator to a homophobic criminal justice system if you pursue legal solutions?

Actions like these can be harmful for your emotional and physical health. If you need help, we are here to help.  Please call our 24-hour confidential and free help line, offered in both English and Spanish